The Big Picture
Vision and values — the life you're both actually aiming at.
The full workbook · this autumn
Plan the marriage,
Plan the marriage,
not just the wedding.
Ten guided date nights that turn the big, easily-avoided conversations into the best nights in you've had in months — ending with a keepsake Manual you build and sign together.
Paperback £14.99£18.99
Hardcover gift edition £27.99
Digital PDF £12.99
Not out yet — leave your email on the free-guide page and you'll be first to know the day it lands.
What's inside
Ten date nights. One marriage, planned.
Each night takes on one big area of a life together — with honest prompts, a bit of humour, and a clear way to land the conversation. Work through them in order, or start with the one you've both been circling.
How We Talk
Communication — how you'll be heard, not just how you speak.
The Money Date
Money, with real numbers on the table — not vibes.
Kids, or Not
Two full paths, depending on where you both land.
How We Fight
Conflict and repair — because you will, and that's fine.
Who Does What
Household roles, shared out before resentment does it for you.
Closeness
Intimacy — the honest talk most guides tiptoe around.
Us Against the Rain
Family and crisis — who you become when it gets hard.
The Wedding Itself
The one day — right-sized against everything that follows it.
How We'll Change
The next fifty years — and giving each other room to grow.
The capstone
Build Your Manual
Everything you've discovered across the ten nights, compiled into one keepsake you both sign and date — your marriage, in your own words. The bit you'll still have in twenty years.
The Compass
Answer honestly. Reveal together.
The bit that makes it work: no peeking, no performing. You each answer privately, then turn the page at the same time.
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Answer privately
Each partner works through the night's prompts on their own side — honestly, without watching for the other's reaction.
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The simultaneous reveal
You share at the same moment. No one edits their answer to match. That's where the real conversation starts.
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Set two dials together
Every date closes on the Compass — Strength (how solid this area feels) and Sync (how similarly you each see it). Watch your shape fill in over ten nights.
Strength
How solid it feels
Sync
How aligned you are
Before it launches
Nobody's reviewed it yet
It isn't out until the autumn, so there are no reviews to show you — and we'd rather say that than invent some. What we do have is the book itself. Here are three questions from it, exactly as they're written.
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What did money feel like in the house you grew up in — tight, easy, secret, loud, never mentioned?Date night 3 — The Money Date
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If £10,000 landed in your account tomorrow, no strings: first instinct — save it, spend it, split it, or hide it?Date night 3 — The Money Date
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What were you like as a child — and what would a small version of you do to this flat?Date night 4 — Kids, or Not
Fancy reading it first?
We're looking for twenty engaged couples to work through the whole thing before it goes on sale. You get a free copy. All we ask is an honest review afterwards — including if you hated it. That's the only kind that's worth anything.
Free copies are disclosed in any review, as the rules require.
Pricing
Three ways to have it
£14.99£18.99
Paperback · intro price
£27.99
Hardcover gift edition
£12.99
Etsy digital PDF
The £14.99 paperback is a launch-week intro price before it settles at £18.99. Want the nudge when it's live? Grab the free guide and you're on the list.
Good questions
Before you ask
No. It's completely secular — no scripture, no doctrine, no assumptions about how you got here or where you worship, if you do. Just two people and the conversations worth having. Bring your own beliefs; we've left room for all of them.
Definitely not — that's rather the point. The prompts do the heavy lifting, so you don't need to be the kind of couple that “talks about feelings” easily. If you can turn a page and be honest for one evening, you're qualified.
Your pick. A paperback and a hardcover gift edition on Amazon, or a digital PDF on Etsy you can print at home. The signing-and-keeping ritual lands best on paper, but the words are the same whichever you choose.
It's built for the run-up to marriage, but there's no gate on the door. Newly-engaged, long-engaged, quietly-thinking-about-it, or married-a-while and never had these talks — it works. No wedding required.
One date night per conversation — roughly an evening each, at whatever pace suits you. Some couples do one a week and make a ritual of it; some do a cosy weekend blitz. There's no timer and no wrong speed.
This autumn, on Amazon and Etsy. It's in final production now. The quickest way to know the day it goes live — and to get the £14.99 launch price — is the free guide; everyone on that list hears first.